The Other F Bomb


Frizz. Get your minds out of the gutter. It's frizz. Soul-destroying, mood-altering, no-matter-how-much-fecking-conditioner-I-put-in-it frizz.  As a woman with natural hair, I am prone to it, as I don't have that layer of dye smoothing-down the cuticle and sealing it off like one of those weird shrink-wrapped suitcases at the airport that makes luggage look like a gigantic veal cutlet that has been left in the freezer too long (seriously, what's that all about anyway?)

I know I am capable of having a frizz-free head.  I always emerge from the hairdresser's looking sleek and shiny. It's when I get home and have to style my own hair like a grown-up that I fall down.  I can get close, but never quite there. I have used oils, masques, strange pastes that are made from nuts squeezed by ancient tribes who reside along the amazon, you name it, I've tried it. I even had one of those glossing treatments when I was home in America that is supposed to seal your cuticle and brighten your silvers. It may have brightened my hair a touch, but the only other effect I really noticed from it was that my wallet felt exactly $127 lighter when all was said and done. Yes, it seems no matter what I do, I always end up looking like this.


In my exhaustive search of…well….everything, I had come to believe that best practices in an anti-frizz regimen should include the use of sulphate and silicone free products with as little bad for you stuff in them as possible. Better for your skin, won't kill the planet, and therefore in theory I could use it and not only be frizz-free, but feel virtuous too.  That would have been great, except for the fact that every time I used these products and dried my hair, I was stuck with a Brillo-pad halo around my head.

Last week, when I was in America, on a whim, I thought I'd try something new.  I found the following on the random beauty shelf at TJ Maxx for $5.



Giovanni Shine of the Times Silicone Finishing Mist is a product that I didn't hold out a lot of hope for. I have used silicone sprays in the past, and found them to be largely ineffective; somehow managing to make my hair both dried-out and greasy all at the same time. Not this. You just spritz it on after you have finished styling, brush it through, aaaaaaand….


Still a few flyways, but this is re-styled after two hours of tennis and some errands! That's what I'm talkin' about! What's great about this product is you can use it repeatedly throughout the day if your hair starts to forget its manners.

What say you, dear readers? Do you prefer natural haircare with no silicones and sulfates, or are you into all out chem warfare (like me, apparently)?



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  1. Living in the swampy South AND having hair the consistency of horse hair, I have found the secret to glossy, shiny, good girl hair: coconut oil. Just the regular organic coconut oil you find in the grocery store. It comes in a jar and looks like lard but you can either heat for 20 sec. or just take a tablespoon or two and rub it in your palms. Then just distribute in your hair. I leave that in for 10-30 minutes, shampoo out and style. I don't even have to use conditioner.

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    1. I actually tried that a while back, but unfortunately my hair is both fine AND coarse. The "salt" being coarse and the "pepper" is thick, but fine. I ended up with overly greasy hair although to be fair, I think I overdid the amount. Still, I have relegated it back into circulation for use in curries and in Thai cooking.

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  2. Maybe non-colouring henna might be worth trying?
    Logona Naturkosmetik in Germany sell it, here in Norway I got it from a Norwegian internet shop. I have not tried it, but bases on what I've read about henna it might be worth a try, as henna is supposed to help with hair texture. My hair is fine and fly-away, and gets kind of dead and straw-like in winter. I used henna with coulor, and the trexture of my hair har improved. After dyeing, I found the above mentioned product on the net, and am looking foreward to trying it.

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    1. I have thought about that before, but it is kind of hard to come by, and I suppose if it didn't work, or turned out weird, there is kind of no going back for quite a while, so I have been sort of shy of it. I may give it another look though, as more than one person I know has had henna and loved it.

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  3. Hurray for chemistry! I use John Frieda's Frizz-ease and it seems to be working. By the way, I dye my hair but still get frizzy. Over 70% humidity will do that to you...
    Did you take a container full of this stuff home with you?

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    1. I did indeed, and it is also available over here. I have sourced my supplier!

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    2. I've just ordered a bottle on ebay. I like the price much better than what I pay for Frizz-ease here in Israel. And the bottle is bigger. Can't wait to try it out!

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  4. It doesn't really seem to matter what I do although I do find that I am a bit better off with Morroccian oil, but then my hair is so greasy day 2...

    I love that you don't colour your hair. At some point I am going to have to come to terms with my grey and just own it too...

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    1. I had been using a version of Moroccan oil before I found this, and in fact still use it when I travel and whatnot. I used Oro Fluido, which is Argan, Linseed, and …..I forget what the 3rd is, but it smells AMAAAAAZING.

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  5. I'm not prone to frizz so much, but I try to avoid sulphates as they are drying. I think your hair looks fabulous in all of the pictures. I need a product that gives me more hair. ;-)

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    1. I have plenty of hair hanging out in my shower drain if you would like me to start saving some up for you. Seriously…if I go a day or two without washing this nest, it looks like an ape got washed down the drain when I shower.

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    2. (Chuckling at the mental image of you and an ape in the shower...)

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  6. I also have grey hair and with 80% humidity, the frizzies are driving me nuts! Luckily my hair has curl so I can let it go natural in this weather but I just ordered some of this product to try when the flat iron comes out again :) Love your blog!

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    1. Thanks Brenda! I'm glad yo unlike the blog. Always glad to know someone is reading!

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  7. One trick I use is a very tiny bit of sculpting gel rubbed across the fingers and lightly patted down from the part at the top. This takes care of the "Teletubbie" hairs that can pop up in the center on my graying hair. I'm all for natural in almost every other area, but my hair products are a little more technological. Your hair looks lovely.

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    1. Okay, THAT is something that I can do! Having salt and pepper seems to fly in the face of everything you are told to do with your hair when you are younger…..remember they always said don't put too much product at the roots? That is my trouble zone for Teletubbie hairs! I can't get enough product on my roots!

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  8. I color, but with a lot of curl, the frizzies are deadly. I have been very happy with Jane Carter Solutions Hair Nourishing Cream. Not heavy, and I hardly have to use conditioner anymore.

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    1. Huh….that is a new one for me. I am doing research right now.

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    2. I can even reapply on the in between days that I don't shampoo.

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  9. All out physical, financial, and chemical warfare. I get someone else's arm power and leverage to blow dry my hair, pay them whatever they ask for it, and tell to use whatever they've got.

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  10. Kristin, I enjoy your "wee blog," LOL. I just wanted to share my favorite anti-frizz product. I find that silicone makes my hair feel both greasy and dry, as you mentioned. Sometimes on first use it's fine, then on second use, it feels yucky. Anyway, I like Sebastian's Potion #9 - it's a leave-in conditioner, no silicone. It may not tame "teletubby hairs" as it is not a styling product. But it truly changes the texture of my hair from major frizzball to fairly normal looking. I just put pea-sized amount (you'd need more - a dime maybe, your hair is longer) in my hair after showering, and then style as usual. I never blow-dry (maybe just the underneath layers on cold days). I find it works best if it comb it through and then don't touch it until it dries.

    Best of all, there is a generic version that is an exact copy - you can find it at Sally Beauty Supply (maybe your next trip to the US?) which is only about $6, much cheaper than the real stuff.

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  11. Hmmm I'll be following your gray hair battles. At 42 I've decided to quit dyeing my hair, which is quite gray already (whiter that yours, I'd say). It's only about 2 inches long (the roots, I mean), but of course, the gray flying ones are already showing. I use a supermarket brand serum, it works wuite well, but I have to wash my hair every day. With three children aged 9, 6 and 7 months, I don't have a lot of time, patience or even money left to spend on my hair, so any good ideas are welcome.
    By the way, I'm also married to a Scotsman! (we live in Spain, though).

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    1. Hi Valeria,
      Your hair will be finished growing out before you know it. I probably should wash my hair every day as well, but I don't…and I don't even have the excuse of having young kids. I'm just plain old lazy. Thanks for reading, and I'm envious that you live somewhere where you can grow things like tomatoes and aubergines without specialised equipment!

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  12. My hair is naturally curly and grey. I do get a lot of those kinky grey hairs :( I find that I can beat them into submission with a curling iron and then a little bit of coconut oil.

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  13. Thank you for this! I'm 34 and growing out my grays (I still have a few lowlights because I'm a chicken), and the Georgia summer is ruining my hair. The oils and Frizz-ease are too heavy for my hair. I use Alterna Bamboo conditioner but it only keeps me shiny for a few hours at most, and then only if I stay indoors. If I take the train to work... forget it. I'm a curly frizz ball within 10 minutes! Going to try this stuff out for sure.

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  14. I'm into keratin treatments! That keeps things in line for a few months!

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  15. I too have fine and frizzy hair (especially now that it's 35% gray). I've never found a product that worked, and I'm not willing to regularly use anything that's toxic or endocrine-disrupting. My absolute salvation is to iron my hair after each blow-dry. I use an iron with slightly curved plates so that the ends of my hair turn out or under and are not weirdly stick-straight. People think I have naturally smooth, manageable hair, which I find hilarious. My natural look (no blow dryer or iron) is bedraggled ungroomed English sheepdog; with blow dryer but no iron, it's like Gilda Radner's character Roseanne Rosannadana from SNL, or Cleopatra on a humid day :)

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  16. Wonderful pictures, such an inspiration!

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